Get moving. Shake things up. Go a different way. Get on a plane. Escape. Explore. Be quiet. Be loud. Do things differently. Say yes. Say no.
Do the unexpected.
Any of these terms could be used to describe my latest adventure to England. There are fun stories to tell, and I’m sure I’ll be sharing them with you all over time, but for now I’m keeping it short and sweet…and (as I always intend) helpful to YOU in YOUR life.
I said yes.
When Derek asked me to come on a business trip with him to England the normal reasons that I would say no weren’t there. Not because they weren’t there, but because there was a bigger commitment behind my reasons.
I was stuck.
I was bored.
I was uninspired.
And honestly, I was feeling a bit lost.
(Ask yourself where you are feeling this in your life.)
So when he asked, my normal reasons didn’t hold up. And let me be clear, it’s not that I typically say no to travel invitations…quite the opposite! It’s only that the past few times they haven’t worked out for a variety of reasons. Truth is, they haven’t worked out because I didn’t need to go bad enough.
Which brings me to my point.
When I’m stuck, it’s not real. I’m actually never stuck, and neither are you. That’s silly old fear pretending to make me stuck.
When I’m uninspired, that’s not true. I’m not enjoying what I’m doing, and I need to make a change…but that doesn’t mean I’m uninspired.
Or lost, one of my favorites. I’m lost.
And it doesn’t mean anything! Lost from what? Really, what exactly can I be lost from?
And the last one…bored.
When I’m bored, I’m actually bored with myself. I don’t find myself interesting, and therefore how could I find anyone else interesting? Damn, it’s no fun to see this, but it will save you (and me).
Here’s the truth.
It’s all fear in disguise.
Fear loves to be in disguise.
My favorite disguise for fear is DRAMA.
Man, do I love me some drama! Figure out a way to make something dramatic, and I’ll do it. I don’t even have to think about it, it’s there. I have been noticing it a lot in myself, and as a result have been hearing it in other people’s stories. It’s a fun game to play:)
(Notice where you make things dramatic in your life.)
But now what? What do you do with all of this?
When I feel stuck (or anything I’ve listed above), this is what I do: I move and I move differently. Sometimes yes, it means getting on a plane, but it doesn’t have to. Let me explain…
It could mean taking a different route on my morning walk. Or allowing myself to get a little lost while I’m driving. Or calling a friend just because. Or doing anything for the sheer love of it.
Yesterday I was taking it really easy because I was getting over a stomach bug. I found myself sitting on the sofa at 7pm with nothing to do, and this of course made me uneasy. So I thought, “What would I do tonight because I wanted to?” Watch a movie is almost always my answer. I would watch and critique movies all day and night if you let me.
So I did! I watched Sicario, and Derek and I went to bed (yes, very early, but he was tired and not that interested). I was able to watch it and take tons of breaks to think about the cinematography, or the music, or rewind it when I didn’t quite follow the plot. I didn’t have to answer to anyone, I got to do it exactly the way I wanted to!
And that’s what I mean. Give yourself permission to do something different. I never watch movies on a weeknight. It feels way too indulgent, and that’s bullshit.
Shaking things up in my life can happen everyday, not only when I take a trip somewhere. Thinking I need to get on a plane in order to be inspired is only the drama talking….know what I mean?
(What can you do differently today?)
That’s what I have to say about that. I hope it helps you all.
P.S. I’m going to go play fetch with Barney now. Because it’s gorgeous outside and I can. I even wrote this blog outside…which I never do. Somewhere along the way I decided that being serious is the only way to be successful. I’m pretty sure I’m wrong about that, thank goodness.