Here at We Play Everywhere we are THRILLED to have our first guest blogger…Derek Morris, Chief of Operations at WPE. He’s married to the creator of WPE, Anna K. Morris, and is the backbone of the company.
I need to get something off my chest! Friends, family, and co-workers relate to me as someone that is SOOO busy. They say things like “well you are so busy” and “I don’t want to bother you because I know you are so busy.”
It’s something that has always bothered me.
Why do people relate to me as if I don’t have time for them?
A couple of things happened recently which sent me into inquiry around how people relate to me. My parents definitely relate to me as busy. And I am. But why is THAT the way of being to which people relate to me? My mom will say things like “I know you are busy,” as she starts conversations with me. Why is it…”I know you are busy,” rather than “I know you live an enriched life and are really fulfilled.” I have also deduced from comments made by friends and family that I may be busier now that I’m married to Anna, which in my mind, somehow implies that I’m at the effect of Anna. Maybe I’m reading too much into that, but it sent me into inquiry mode.
So why is it that people relate to me as someone who is so BUSY?
In asking myself those questions, I became responsible, or “CAUSE IN THE MATTER” for how I create myself for people, via my words.
When people ask me how things are going, I give them an ORDINARY and superficial answer such as “life is good, really busy, a lot going on.”
What a cop-out. No wonder that is all people hear. I know that people don’t want a life story, but when friends and family ask how things are going, I owe them an authentic, EXTRAORDINARY response which leaves them clear of what I’m really up to in life, what really matters to me, and how the things that keep me “busy” are incredibly enriching to me.
So today I become responsible for my life and how I create myself!!!! This is the single most important breakthrough I have had in my life. And it happened at 6:00am in the shower this morning after 5 hours of sleep.
So let’s get straight on a few things:
- I am busy. I am busy doing things in the life that are important to me and fulfill me.
- I am busy being with my wife and dog. I waited patiently for 37 years to find the love of my life and I’m now busy enjoying them. One of my favorite things to do is to take Barney to the dog park on Saturday. It’s relaxing and a way to connect with my wife and dog-son (as I call him). There isn’t anything more important to me in my life than this connection. I choose to make this a priority in my life.
- I am busy contributing to the lives of others through my work with Landmark Worldwide. Through my participation in Landmark programs, I have had breakthroughs in my life that were previously incomprehensible. And through my leadership in Landmark Programs, I have directly contributed to and had a part in changing the lives of innumerable individuals. Because of me, their lives will never be the same. I’m saying that they have a slightly better life for themselves. What I’m saying is that, because of me, they are out delivering on ANYTHING they want for themselves and for their life. Their life is unrecognizable from what it previously looked like. There is simply nothing more rewarding to me in my life than being a contribution to others. And I choose to make that a priority.
- I am busy leading a global organization at work. I have a responsibility to my team to give them my best each and every day. Sometimes I am not as assured that I’m delivering on that commitment. And I strive each and every day to deliver the leadership for which they count on me.
So there you have it. Now you know why I’m busy and why these things are important to me. And that I am not at the EFFECT of anyone or anything.
I’m giving up the ORDINARY response to the “how are you question?”.
When someone asked me how I am doing, I have a RESPONSIBILITY to give them an authentic answer. How rude of me to give them an ORDINARY answer. I will give them the REAL, EXTRAORDINARY answer. I will let my response GENERATE who I am in this world!!
So how am I?
My life is full beyond measure!!
I am married to the most amazing woman I could imagine. She is building a company that makes a difference in this world. And every day amidst being busy building OUR company, she is constantly looking for ways to contribute to my life, the life or our dog, the lives of our WPE members, and the lives of people that she doesn’t even know yet. Who can authentically say that about their partner? Before you answer, take a real look and you may see that it’s there and you just haven’t noticed.
I have amazing friends and family that love me. I get to be 100% me each and every day!! Although I don’t get to see my out of town friends as frequently, I love them dearly and, in my commitment to “having it all” have built in time to connect with them.
I get to contribute to making a difference in the lives of others—some friends and some complete strangers!
I get to lead a global organization in the most transformational work in the history of my company. That means that there are 20+ concurrently running projects which I oversee. What an awesome opportunity to make a lasting difference in the long-term success of my company.
Now you know how I am.
I can see for myself that me being RESPONSIBLE for my language can make the biggest difference in how I am created for people.
When I tell people I am busy, they relate to me only as busy. And they don’t hear any commitment or fulfillment so it occurs that someone else or something else is making me busy. When I tell people REALLY how I am, they get a glimpse into the real me—what I’m up to, why I’m up to it, what makes me tick, and they can see how incredibly fulfilled I am.
I invite you to be RESPONSIBLE for your words.
When someone asks you how you are—be real with them. Don’t take the easy way out. Really share yourself with them. It is in YOUR words that YOU get CREATED. So be RESPONSIBLE for how your occur to people.
If you are not RESPONSIBLE, then you are at the effect of what people make up about you.
With love, Derek Morris
FYI: If you’re a WPE member, let us know if you want to be a guest blogger. We would LOVE to have you!